Dating Tips

You are over 40 and everyone you know is married with children or in a relationship. You say to yourself- "when is it going to be my turn?" I have been in that exact same situation. I had thought back then – I wish I had someone who could personally give me all the dating tips for women over 40 I need. Well, that is what I am going to do for you. I did not find my Mr. Right until I was over 40. I dated everyone I could. Once my friends had fixed me up with every single person they knew and even their friends friends, I hit the internet, then when that did not work I went to a matchmaker. It was not until I realized that I was the problem, that I was holding myself back. That is when I met the man of my dreams.

It was not until I started to ask myself, why after all the 100's of men I had gone out with I still could not find the right one. I mean just by the sheer numbers alone, the odds are I should have been able to find at least one man I wanted to spend my life with. Then one day it hit me, I realized that I was still waiting for the man I had dreamed up in my head. I saw that it was time to let go of the image of the man I thought I was going to end up with. We all have that image in our heads- even if we are unaware of it. I realized how closed off I have been to all of the men I have gone out with. No one could ever measure up to what I had made up in my head. That was my turning point! I believe that this is the number one reason why most women over 40 who want to meet someone have not been able to find the right man to settle down with.

Until you are ready to open your mind, you will stay single. It is great to have an idea of ​​what you want your Mr. Right to be, but that vision you have been carrying around with you is not reality. Once I started asking myself the right questions, I realized why each man I went out with was missing just that little something. My mind was closed to anyone who did not have everything my vision understood of even though I was not even consciously aware I was doing that. That is when I knew that this was the first step to meeting Mr. Right.

Then you need to right down the five things that you want not in a partner that you will not compromise on. These five things are the hits that you should focus on. If you meet someone and they do not have your 5 things, then you need to move on. Sounds so simple right? But actually it could be very hard. Even if someone has the 5 things you are looking for, they may have things about them that do not fit into the vision you have. This is the hard part. You have to open your mind and let go of that vision in your head. It is a trade off. You can focus on the fact that he might not be as tall as you want, not look the way you want, etc. or you can focus on that he has the most important qualities you want.

If someone was to ask me to give them my number one dating tips for woman over 40 this would be it. If you want to be in a relationship (a happy one) you need to open your mind and let love in. Focusing on only the qualities you must have in someone. That is the secret. Once I focused on just the important qualities- everything fell into place. I focused on the type of person I wanted, honest, caring, family man, etc. When you find a man with all or most of the important qualities you are looking for all the other things do not matter. Trust me- at least try it for a while and see what happens. You could finally have the man and the life you have been looking for !!!!