Trouble sets in when the apples and oranges get jumbled together. What's fashionable or appeals to women goes into the bin marked "apples". What impacts on men belong in the "oranges" basket.
I watched a panel discussion on the television recently b ya woman who made a serious apple and orange salad by arguing that cosmetics are part of a plot by men to tyrannize women. The audience, 99% female, nearly hooted her off the stage.
In a roundabout way she was confirming my point of view. If a woman spends hundreds of dollars and hours on make-up to attract men, she is being tyrannized – not by men, but by the expectations that can never be fulfilled. It's the tyranny of hope over experience. The apple-orange salad lady goes several steps beyond by contending that men are to blame, when they, in fact, could not care less. (And many men believe that women wear TOO MUCH make-up.)
I've read dozens of interviews of men that said some of their most satisfying relationships had been with women who were not conventionally beautiful or well dressed. But they were sexy and fun to be around. And a common complaint with these men were that if make up is an issue on determining the level of attraction, the result is always the oppostite of what women want to hear; too much make up was a deciding factor on REMOVING any level of attraction from the man.
Those women are onto something crucial. They're zeroed in on the essential ingredients of a successful relationship with a man. They've freed themselves from the tyranny of the cosmetic "supposedly-to's"
Source by Don W Bernard