As you've probably noticed, it's pretty hard these days to find the right woman for you, and even more tough to find the right woman that will actually date you. However, you're only making it more difficult on yourself you're trying too hard.
Alright, so you have found your perfect "ideal" partner, and you'd like to date her. Although that is not the hard part, take that as the first step in the right direction. I know, sounds cheesy, but at least we have something to build off of – knowing what you like, and knowing what you want.
Now give yourself a pat on the back and tell yourself "good job!" No, not literally, but positive reinforcement is what we're going for here. Not a rehearsed "pick-up-girl script." If your goal is to fail at gaining that woman's attention, knock yourself out with coming up with those fancy one-liners. But, if what you're looking for is a successful interaction with the woman, follow my lead, and simply start with telling yourself you can do it.
Before you walk over, you absolutely must do everything you can to calm your nerves. You are not walking into a business meeting, so you should not be preparing a sales pitch. Keep it casual.
Men just do not think the same way women do, so when you are out on the prowl, this is essentially the number one reason why you first need to find a way to relax and take a breath. You think you need a good plan before you start talking to a woman – an entire conversation mapped out in your mind.
Well, the truth is a woman 100% of the time will not respond the way you would hope she would if you swoop in on her with some tense, pre programmed comedy routine.
In my personal experience, it's always better for the guy to not have any idea of what he is going to say when he walks up to a girl. That sounds scary, I know, but I'm begging you to trust me on this one. Clear your mind, and walk calmly up to the woman.
With that being said-don't make your mind too clear to the point you've forgotten how to make small talk, or start a conversation at all. A silent, sexy stare only works in the movies. You have to open your mouth, but do not fret too much about what's going to come out ahead of time.
At risk of being too much of a cliché – Just be yourself!
Source by Terry Masterson