Can not get a second date? Starting to feel desperate and dateless? Practice these dating techniques and have the guys chasing you! A guide to dating that ensures you do not keep making those first date errors.
Are you regularly not getting a call back for a second date? Perhaps you fall into one of these categories of female daters that scare the guys off. Have a read. Be honest with yourself, correct your maneuvers, and follow these tips for first date success. Are you:
1: The interrogative dater. Are you treating the first date like an interview for the job description of your boyfriend? No one likes to feel that they are being interrogated. Would you refuse a second date because not all the boxes are ticked? Your dating check list could be your problem. You may feel like you do not have all the time in the world to figure out that the guy is not up to you, but you still need more than one date to sort through all that. You should not treat the first date as an interview, as guys find this very intimidating and off putting. Let things progress naturally over the course of a couple of dates and you will end up finding out a lot more when he lets his guard down than you would have on one date.
2: The desperate dater. Do you start calling him after the first date? The next day? Just for any reason? Coming over as necessary (and you will, behaving like this) will scare him off. Guys do not like feeling suffocated. Guys like to move at their own pace. If he is going to ring or text he will. Chasing after guys just does not work. Let him think he is chasing you.
3: The nervous dater. Dating a new guy can be nerve wracking. Try to be yourself on the first date. Try to be mindful of what you do and say. Do not fall into the trap of being so anxious that you just open your mouth and let it all come out without thinking. Whatever you do, do not drink too much for Dutch Courage. Be mindful of your body language and concentrate on that to keep the nerves at bay. Coco has written a helpful article on sexy body language for the first date if you need more information on this topic.
4: The fraudulent dater. Be honest with your likes, dislikes and hobbies. Sitting there and agreeing with him on everything just to get another date will never work long term. Pretending to be something that you are not will only work short term. If you do not voice any of your own opinions, the guy will never get to know who you really are. You can not build up any trust or interest in a relationship if he is looking at a mirror of himself. Guys like a challenge. Give him something to work on and think about.
5: Sharing too much. Intimate problems and ex-boyfriends are not first date topics. Guys hate discussing emotions and emotions. They do not want to hear about your ex-boyfriend. You will make him uncomfortable talking about these topics and he will not be coming back. Being too emotional will make him think you are needy. Guys want a fun first date not a psychology lecture. Leave him feeling good and relaxed.
6: The one night stand. Guaranteed to not progress to a long term relationship. Guys like a challenge. Guys like to be the hunters. What is there left for him to explore? Even if you do have the best bedroom technique it is ever going to experience, make it wait for it. His lust interest is already engaged or you would not be on the date in the first place. Build his interest in all your other special attributes. By increasing the anticipation he is more inclined to hang around.
Brush up your dating techniques. Use these first date tips and get yourself a long term guy.
Source by Coco Swan