It's my opinion that when done correctly, internet dating can empower women and can give them a greater chance of success in meeting the type of man that they want. No longer are we stuck with the bar scene or hopping to "luck into" meeting the type of person that we really want. Internet dating takes a lot of chance and luck out of the process because it allows us to weed out and reject what we do not want without actually having to waste our time and efforts.
Technology allows for us to do carefully select the criteria that is important to us. This saves time and disappointment on the initial "getting to know you" tasks, many of which you can now complete from the comfort and safety of your own computer. In the following article, I'm going to offer some tips that I hope will help you to have the best experience possible when it comes to online dating.
Tip Number One: Take The Time To Define What And Who You Really Want ( Before You Put a Lot of Time and effort into this process, it can really help to be very honest about and to define what and who you are looking for. Try not to worry about what other people think or what you feel like you "should" want. There is no right or wrong answer. It does not make sense to look for the person who will make your family happy when it's you who is going to be interacting with this person.
Use your knowledge of your past relationships to help you define what does and does not work for you. With that said, it helps to also keep an open mind during this process. But every one has their own deal breakers and things that really matter to them. It's important to keep these things in mind so that you're not wasting your time and efforts.
Tip Number Two: Find An Online Dating Site That Best Fits Into Your Own Objectives: This is perhaps one of the biggest mistakes that I see people make. It's not uncommon for women who really do want "husband material" or a very serious relationship to go looking on sites that encourage or are better suited for casual dating. That's why I often discourage people who are really looking for "the one" to spend a lot of time on free sites where people do not want to spend any money and are not really serious about anything but "hook ups."
Now, most sites do offer free trials and this can be great to decide which sites are the best fit for you. And, in the beginning, cruising around the site and seeing your matches can help to build your self confidence. But when you're really serious about putting yourself out there and being happy with the results, it's usually a good idea, at least in my experience, to find the site that is most likely to expect you to people with objectives that are similar to yours.
Tip Three: Use The Tools That Are Often Included And Free: If you've not been on many internet dating sites, you might be pleasantly surprised at all that they offer. There are tons of resources, tips, articles, quizzes, and tools that allow you for you to get to know someone or explore your similarities long before you ever meet face to face. Many people are intimidated by the personality profiles and such, but these can be invaluable to your success. They can also save you a lot of time because they help the site to put matches in front of you who are most likely to be compatible with you.
Tip Four: Be Honest But Generous When It Comes To Your Profile And Photos: There's usually nothing to be gained by posting a photo that has been overly touched up or that is ten years old. You're always going to need to meet people if you want to move forward. And when that time comes, they are going to see the real you. So, you do not want to set it up so that they are surprised when this happens.
However, there is nothing wrong with looking your best and projecting your best qualities. Take your time choosing a photo and have friends (or even an an amateur photographer) give you plenty of choices. You want to create a profile and a photo that accurately reflects the best of who you really are. This is important. You do not want to create a fake persona that does not even resemble you. What good is to attract to someone who is really only interested in the image that you've created which is not accurate?
With that said, there's nothing wrong with focusing on your best attributes and the positive sides of yourself. People are attracted to upbeat people who smile and laugh, not to people who are overly serious and fretful. Even if you are a serious person at heart, you'll probably have a better time and a more positive experience if you try to approach this with an open mind and a sense of adventure.
Tip Five: Be A Good Listener And Ask A Lot Of Questions: Here's a secret that so many people do not consider. People are automatically attracted to people who make them feel good about themselves. Even if you do not consider yourself an extravert or a good communicator, you will come off very positively if you can get the other person to talk about and then feel good about themselves.
Being a good listener is a big part of this, but, before you meet face to face, the online equivalent to this is asking a lot of open ended questions and following up on what intrigues you. If you can make the other person feel special, interesting and appealing (in a true way, of course), they will likely project all of these things right back onto you.
Source by Sara Sheldon