One of the big mysteries that almost every woman struggles with is why do men wait to call. It’s not a problem that only plagues women on first dates. Even women in long term relationships are sometimes left wondering why the man in their life can’t seem to call when he says he will. Although it’s easy to jump to the conclusion that he’s just lazy or uninterested, that may not be the case at all. Once a woman really understands why men don’t always call when they say they will, she can carefully craft the communication part of their relationship so he drops that habit and starts to call even more often than he has in the past.
It’s very rare for a man to not call because he’s too busy. The truth is that if a man is seriously interested in a woman he’ll call. He could have an overwhelming day of work problems with only a few minutes between meetings and he’ll still find time to call. So why do men wait to call then? The answer is a little surprising. Many men wait to call because they are in essence testing the woman. They want to see how she’ll react when he doesn’t call as promised. A woman’s reaction to this says a lot about her and how she views the relationship.
If you overreact when a man says he’ll call and then he doesn’t your actions are suggesting one thing to him and that’s that he is essentially the center of your universe. When a woman becomes emotional and tells the man that he’s hurt her by not calling or questions him about the depth of his feelings because of a forgotten call, he’ll jump to the conclusion that she’s desperate for attention. This automatically turns men off.
What you want to do when your man doesn’t call as promised is nothing. Don’t call him, don’t sit and wait for him to call and never bring up the fact that he didn’t call. You can even take it a step further and ignore him when he does call (and he will.) Obviously you don’t want to ignore him forever, but let it go to voicemail when he does finally call and then treat him like a friend when you return the call. If you do this you are shifting the control in the relationship from him back to you. He’ll realize that he hasn’t completely captured your attention yet and it will make him work harder to do so.
Source by Gillian Reynolds